Gross and Painful-ish

For those that have no clue how a vasectomy reversal works, it basically goes like this. Depending on how long ago you had your vasectomy, and how the vasectomy was done, a doctor or surgeon will decide in the operating room (yes, while the procedure is being done), which type of reversal will be done. As far as I know, there are two different types of vasectomy reversals. They include:

-a vasovasostomy, and

-a vasoepididymostomy

Basically, you are hoping that the doctor will have to do a vasovasostomy, as the success rates for that procedure are much higher. To determine which procedure to use, the doctor will cut open your scrotum, and using both a microscope and surgical scalpels, will open the previously cut ends of the vas deferens tube. After doing this, he will test for sperm (and crossing your fingers you will hope that he finds some), and if he finds some will do a vasovasostomy, and if he doesn’t find any, will do a vasoepididymostomy.

In a vasovasostomy, the doctor will reconnect the ends of the vas deferens. In a vasoepididymostomy, a blockage has been formed that is not allowing sperm to move into the vas deferens. To bypass this, doctors will connect the upper part of the vas deferens to the epididymis past the point of the blockage. If you have had a vasovasostomy done, you can expect sperm motility to return within a few months, but if you have had a vasoepididymostomy done, you can expect sperm motility to return after a year!

A Fighting Chance

Okay, now fast forward a few years later (only ten or so), and apart from splitting up with my then girlfriend I had met Allie, the woman of my dreams. For us, things just seemed to click – I liked her, she liked me, we had a lot of things in common and we both found each other to be very attractive. So, after hitting it off and about a year and a half later, we were engaged to be married. At this time, she knew that I had had a vasectomy, and even though she wanted kids, she decided that she still wanted to marry me, and to fight along side with me for a chance to become pregnant.

Now, for one reason or another, it wasn’t until about a year after getting married that we decided it was time to get the reversal done. This time, things were a little different then how I remembered the vasectomy going. Unlike the vasectomy, the tasks leading up to get the reversal done were much more complicated. I had to get tests done, sign many more papers, find a doctor who had a good reputation, and pay a much, much higher price (around $6000.00!).

The hardest part for us, was when the doctor told us that we had under a 20% chance that the operation was going to be successful. That was really gut wrenching. Although I never told Allie this, it did feel like I had failed her in some sense. Both of us were at a point in our lives where we were financially set up and we were both emotionally ready to have kids, and I was the only barrier preventing that from happening. The only thing left to do was to have the operation and fight!

Fight and never give up